Many married people are daily regretting and cursing their marriages. If you are single, know the reasons why people marry wrong persons and end their marriages in bitter separations or live to endure it.
1. YOU FOCUS MORE ON CHEMISTRY THAN ON CHARACTER
Principle: Never marry someone because you’re in love. Falling in love is a state of temporary psychosis. It is the “delusion of fusion.” Identify the specific character traits you must have in your spouse and know clearly how to asses for each one.
Background checks are essential, Be especially careful to check out the family.
People from warm and loving homes will most likely be emotionally healthy people.
Chemistry means there is physical and sexual attraction.
Compatibility: Looking for sameness: same backgrounds, culture, language, interests,politics etc. Temperament types are important to know.
2. YOU EXPECT HIM OR HER TO CHANGE AFTER YOU’RE MARRIED
The question you must ask is, “Can I live with this person the way he is now and be happy with him?”
Principle: Never marry potential. This implies bad potential. He’s a chronic smoker and drunkard and says he’ll change for you. This is bad potential. If he doesn’t change you’ll resent him.
3. YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THE FUNDAMENTAL NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN
This is all about making sure the male-female energies are in sync. Men and women each have one core emotional need. Men want to be respected. Women want to be cherished, which means they want to be protected, provided for, and guided. The ultimate prerequisite for a man to get married is that he is ready to take responsibility. He has to be ready to be a “man.”
4. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND WHERE YOU’RE GOING
This means knowing what you stand for in life: Your values, priorities, and goals.
Ideally you should not be considering marriage until you’ve answered life’s most important question: What am I living for? Two people who have the same life goal have a much greater chance of growing together and staying together in a deeply bonded way. A soul mate is a goal mate.
Principle: The more clearly and narrowly we define ourselves, the better our chance of finding the right person.
Tools: What are we going to build together? What are this person’s life commitments? What does this person stand for? What is he passionate about?
5. YOU GET INVOLVED SEXUALLY TOO QUICKLY
Becoming intimate too soon can be self-defeating because it creates confusion.
• It may create a false sense of commitment and depth.
• It may block you from processing your feelings which is soul-tie
• It may lead to overlooking problems that should not be overlooked.
6. YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO IS ABUSIVE
The definition of an abusive relationship is one in which you are afraid to express your feelings and opinions.
Other indicators:
• You don’t feel emotionally safe.
• You have to monitor what you say.
• You walk on egg shells around this person.
• You don’t feel relaxed and don’t feel you can be yourself.
• The person is demanding, controlling, or communicates with anger and criticism.
7. YOU DO NOT HAVE A CONSISTENTLY POSITIVE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH EACH OTHER
A positive emotional connection does not mean you are in love.
Five questions to evaluate if you have a positive emotional connection:
1. Do I respect and admire this person?
2. Do I trust this person in every way and feel I can rely on his or her judgment?
3. Do I feel totally safe with this person (like I feel with my best friend)?
4. Do I truly care about this person and have a desire to give to him or her?
5. Are we open and honest with each other about our feelings and opinions?
Your greatest tool for measuring the quality of the relationship is your feelings.
Principle: Never dismiss anything that bothers you! Process everything that bothers you.
8. YOU DON’T COMMUNICATE WELL
This is very important: You must be sure before you get married that the two of you communicate well.
Good communication means:
1. We can talk openly and honestly about our feelings
2. We listen to each other and make it safe for each other to express ourselves.
3. There is no defensiveness
4. We trust that together we can resolve problems
5. We have confidence in ourselves that we can repair our breakdowns
6. We work well together; we’re a good team
Principle: You must be able to repair breakdowns 100%, which means there is no resentment or bad feelings left over.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is to believe that marriage will heal or fix their deep inner pain. In many cases, marriage will only make the pain greater and more unbearable!
11 thoughts on “WRONG MARRIAGES, WRONG PERSONS & WRONG MOTIVES:”
Hey, I think your site might be having browser compatibility issues. When I look at your blog site in Safari, it looks fine but when opening in Internet Explorer, it has some overlapping. I just wanted to give you a quick heads up! Other then that, excellent blog!
http://rusnor.org/pubs/edit/index.php?PAGE_NAME=profile_view&UID=89895
купить диплом в волгодонске
http://school-10-lik.ru
купить диплом в кунгуре
Fantastic perspective! The points you made are thought-provoking. For more information, I found this resource useful: FIND OUT MORE. What do others think about this?
Your blog is a beacon of light in the often murky waters of online content Your thoughtful analysis and insightful commentary never fail to leave a lasting impression Keep up the amazing work!
you have got an important weblog right here! would you wish to make some invite posts on my blog?
Ny weekly I just like the helpful information you provide in your articles
Thank you for the auspicious writeup It in fact was a amusement account it Look advanced to far added agreeable from you However how can we communicate
I loved as much as youll receive carried out right here The sketch is attractive your authored material stylish nonetheless you command get bought an nervousness over that you wish be delivering the following unwell unquestionably come more formerly again as exactly the same nearly a lot often inside case you shield this hike
Muy interesante lo que planteas. ¿Qué opinas de la tendencia?
Packachange There is definately a lot to find out about this subject. I like all the points you made
can you buy priligy in the u.s. I have no iui story as i went straight to ivf
Trusted by Iraq’s top industries, BWER Company provides innovative weighbridge systems, enabling seamless load monitoring and weight compliance for transport, construction, and agriculture sectors.